In a world full of booty calls, hooking up and friends with benefits, I find it astonishing that marriage is still the ultimate goal of dating. With the U.S having the highest divorce rate in the Western world, I just find is maddening that we, as a society,negate that couples can still be in a committed relationship with or without a marriage license. So I ask, is marriage the only acceptable goal of dating? Fact: Grown ass women don’t play games! Take things slow!

As women, we are bombarded with articles in every popular magazine on how to “get him to commit” and “how to get him to the alter.” There is an entire section of the bookstore dedicated to dating rules and how to play games in order to “seal the deal”! Fact: Grown ass women don’t play games! Oh, and a grown ass man won’t put up with that “The Rules” bullshit, so you better watch it ladies! Love does not have to equal marriage in order for the commitment to be real and genuine!

Instead of being obsessed with getting to the alter, how about taking a step back and ask yourself these questions: Am I happy with myself and my life? Does this person enhance/add to that happiness? Is marriage really what I want for myself, or is it what I’ve been told I should want for myself? Do this person and I work together as true partners and teammates, or are we simply co-existing in this relationship? Fact: Grown ass women don’t play games! Take things slow!

At the end of the day the only thing that matters is that you are content with your situation. It doesn’t matter if it’s a marriage, a commitment ceremony, a domestic partnership, or just two adults living together and making a commitment to each other. No one should how you label your relationship, and you shouldn’t get caught up in it either. The quality of the relationship is what really matters, not how you label it. Take things slow! Fact: Grown ass women don’t play games!